In laws!

by Kate

I am married for 10 years now, living with in-laws for all this time. The things that drive me crazy in this kind of life are numerous. Where to start? The first thing would be the competition that I face from my mother-in-law in every possible thing! Cooking, stitching, be it anything; she has to prove that she can do better!

She is not yet ready to let go of her son even at this stage, wanting us to take her to movies whenever we go. Whatever we do, she has to be in on that! Movies, she wants to come, outings she wants to come. You name it, she is interested in it!

Spending time with my hubby is difficult because she does not like him spending too much time with me. If he does that, he is a moron. My husband, not being able to handle the constant poking, has stopped spending time with me altogether. We never go to movies, outings, nowhere, all because his mother might say that he is his wife's slave/puppy whatever.

I think the thing that makes me crazy here is that we cannot stay separately (my hubby wants to take care of his aging parents!) and I feel that this kind of a married life is worthless according to me. I could have had my freedom as a single working woman and lived a much better life, rather than living with a mama's boy and a woman thinks only of herself.

There is much more I could say on this topic, but on the whole, there is only one advice I would give to those reading this. Be firm in what you want in life, if what you get is not to your liking, let go of it! I wish I would have done that in the first year of marriage rather than sticking to the marriage, hoping things would get better later on and then not wanting to leave because of the children.

It is better to suffer heartbreak for a short while, than to suffer it for a lifetime.